Frustrations

His name was Pete, and he was different than the other guys. We met one night at small pub when he leaned over and struck up a conversation. He had average looks, a warm smile, and a personality that absolutely blew me away. For the first time in my life (and remember that I'm on decade number 4), I gave a man -- in a bar -- my phone number on the night I met him. We began seeing one another, and since he worked offshore, we were only able to see each other about once a week for two months. For me, it was the ideal situation. Here was a man who was sincere, financially secure, knew what he wanted in life, was positive, attractive (the more I saw him, the better looking he became), and so intelligent. He told me so often that he admired my strength and my independence. And I thought I had finally found someone who "got" me. That is, until the phone calls, e-mails, and visits came to a screeching halt. Yep. Just. Like. That. Poof. I wondered what had happened. I sent 2 or 3 text messages over a two-month time period and finally sent a very concerned "are you dead in a ditch" email. Finally, he sent a message that stated he had met someone else and didn't think we should communicate any longer. I was fine with that since I'm of the opinion that if things are working out; they're just not working out. Hug, say goodbye, and walk away. NEXT!! However, my issue was he felt it necessary to tell me that this new woman was very dependent on him and she "needed" him and that was his attraction to her. UM? Huh??? He said he loved my independent nature and he loved the fact that I didn't "need" anyone. Yeah. okay. What the fuck ever, Pete.

So do men want a needy woman, or do they want one who can handle her own business, but still want that safe place to fall once in a while? I won't pretend to be a damsel in distress just to get a date, and if being independent limits my choices, then they'll just be limited. I just wish that people would say what they mean and mean what they say. Man, are those menzes frustrating at times.