Honorary Degrees

I wouldn’t consider myself an expert in any field. I have no PhD -- although I am working on a Bachelor's degree (after a VERY long hiatus). However, when it comes to love and relationships, I feel that my life experience, observation, and a phenomenal amount of time analyzing situations has granted me an “honorary relationship degree.”

I have amazing friends who have been an incredible source of wisdom, humor, and one epiphany after another. We may not always be on the same path or even on the same page, but we also offer the each other insightful advice at just the right moments.

My friends and I, collectively, have dated just about every stereotype on record. We are what someone might consider break-up experts since we’ve become so accomplished at coping with them. No, this might not sound like something to brag about, but we have learned so much, and are using this knowledge to better our future relationships and ourselves.
I’m quite content being single and fabulous. I’m not looking for a commitment right now, although if Mr. Right fell into my lap, I wouldn’t stand up and bolt to the nearest exit. My mission has been to find intellectual, interesting, and attractive friends with the potential for future relationships. I’ve been successful on some levels, failed miserably on others, but am still “out there.” I’m using this time as a learning experience. I’ve learned to spot red flags a mile away, and have realized that no matter what their background, income , education level, or social status, men are still "men," Honey. They are almost predictable to a fault. I’m recognizing patterns and signals and have become quite adept at reading between the lines and weeding out the insincere ones.

Since I work at home and am the poster child for introverts, one of my venue of choice for meeting “menzes” has been the internet. It's currently a world-wide phenomena at the moment, and yes, I got sucked into it somehow. I can’t even remember how I got started in this whole online roller coaster ride o’ dating. I wish I could so I could go back and equally thank and blame the person who convinced me to take the chance. A few years ago, you could have never convinced me to post a profile on one of the online dating sites (No, not even by bribing me with chocolate). Yes, I used to make fun of these “desperate people” who would spend endless hours online chatting with complete “strangers.” . The idea of complete strangers talking on line and “falling in love”? What was THAT about? Come on, how desperate WERE these people? I was completely flabbergasted that some of the “idiots” would actually meet in person. I was convinced that every man online was a stalker or ax-wielding serial killer in search of his next victim, and I most certainly would never fall prey to such a scenario. In the same vein, I just knew that all of the woman who joined these “online nightclubs” were women with low-self-esteem, gold diggers, or simply had no standards. So, color me the hypocrite now, and I am, for once, happily eating my words. Yes, I was wrong – well, about many of the people out there. Imagine my surprise when I met “normal” people online! I was shocked by the sheer number of ordinary people who simply don’t have the time or inclination to go out looking for friends or dates and don’t enjoy the bar scene. I have met professionals, Christians, single dads, average “joes,” and a sampling of every other demographic possible. Of course, I have met my share of potential stalkers, serial killers, or just plain nut jobs. It’s been a fascinating journey that is far from over. I’m enjoying the ride, and don’t plan on ending it any time soon.

So, jump on in and fasten your seatbelt. I can’t promise you a smooth ride, but it will definitely be full of twists, turns, humor (now, come on -- laugh WITH me -- not at me, heh) and interesting pit stops. But be warned, you’ll be joining us already in progress.